It's never too late

Have a look at this Fabulous Lady on Britain's Got Talent

Follow the link below
When you click play - it will come up 'watch on you tube' - just cllik that link xxx



It just goes to show that it is NEVER Too Late to follow your Dream !!!

Kisses
Kim xxx

The Healing Power of Fresh Foods

The Healing Power of Fresh Foods

I am FABULOUS !!!

I am Fabulous ... now repeat this to yourself NOW ! ... go to the mirror and look yourself in the eyes and say it again ... I am Fabulous !

You only get one body - so rather than hate it, wouldn’t it be better to love it ?

You are beautiful - right now - just as You are

As a society we are obsessed with being thin - research shows that by the age of 6, most girls are dissatisfied with their bodies.

Open any women’s magazine and you are bombarded with images of stick-thin women. It is this look that has become an aspiration and inspiration for a whole generation of women., and we have come to view these images as normal !

Western society is obsessed with body image. Women wan to be thinner, men want to be more muscular.

Many people ignore the fact that the idealized bodies images that surround them - are just that idealized - and actually unobtainable for most of us.

This leads them on a relentless pursuit of the perfect figure - which leads them to be chronically dissatisfied with their appearance. This can lead to poor self esteem and a lack of confidence.

Real women are soft in places and good to cuddle !

Instead of wanting to lose our curves, we should be feeling fabulous and SEXY because of them !

Start embracing your womanly curves from today . Remember female beauty comes in many shapes and sizes. Not everyone was meant to be a size 8

Love yourself - really learn to love yourself, when you can truly say I LOVE MYSELF , and feel the Beauty, you will be amazed at how things change for the better. Negative situations will dissolve and loving positive things will enter.


If you want your life to become better
-you have to start treating yourself better


Positive body image is powerful, it won’t solve all of life’s problems, but will lead to confidence. In order to be fully sexual, we need to love ourselves and love our bodies.

Care for yourself - a neglected spirit will manifest itself in your physical body.

If it feels deprived or ignored, it will react by overeating, overspending and over drinking
it’s where nothing can fill you.

A neglected spirit is what drives you to nitpick at your body, magnify your faults and obsess over your shortcomings.

A neglected spirit is never satisfied, you’re never thin enough or pretty enough.

This is not the way to live.

But there is a solution -a regular habit of self care.


Say it out loud - I am beautiful

Redecorate your Internal Landscape
Accept beauty in your life. Think of a ritual that might make your life feel more beautiful.
Lighting candles reading poems. Celebrate beauty in poetry, dance and song.
Find beauty in all aspects of womanhood.
Treat yourself to sexy underwear, gorgeous lingerie and stunning loungewear.
If you like flowers, buy yourself flowers every week. If you like movies, go to the movies once a week

Relish you Body
Pamper your body on a daily basis, paint your toes, style your hair, groom yourself impeccably, get a facial, try a new eye shadow, buy a new lotion, spend an afternoon at a spa. Have a long scented bubble bath, fill the bathroom with candles and music you love.


You can spend your whole life worrying about what if’s
or you can live in the moment
and seize the opportunity to be the person you really want to be

No one or nothing can hold you back
…. Except your own inner demons.


It all starts with a single positive thought

- I can do this
- I am worthy
-I deserve it

So Be Fabulous ... and share your magnificence with the world !

The secrets to Happiness

The Pursuit of Happiness


Would you like to live a Happier Life ?
Everyone in this world wants to be happy.
So if happiness is such a common goal, why is unhappiness so common today ?

If someone stopped you in the street tomorrow and asked you what would make you happier, what would you say ? A holiday, winning the lotto, meeting the man or woman of your dreams, a sports car, being 5kg lighter ?
If you think any of these things would make you happier …you’re wrong !

We are bombarded with advertising that usually equates happiness with having the right car or clothes. In recent years our purchasing power has increased, which means we can afford to buy more things and yet buying more stuff has not made us any happier, because happiness is not for sale.

You can wear designer labels, but still have no time for yourself.
You can have a nanny and a housekeeper, but still feel that life is a chore.
You can wear diamonds, but still have no sparkle in your life.
You can drive a sports car … and still feel unhappy

We are taught to make our happiness dependant on outside sources - an event, condition, person, object etc., and we keep delaying our happiness until things are just right in out lives. But life is never just right - there is only now !

We are conditioned to think that we have to search for happiness, that happiness is somewhere else other than where we are right now.

Mistakenly we believe that happiness is a destination, and a place to get to. This causes us to race through life to ‘get’ happiness. In an effort to find this elusive place, we overlook the beauty in the ordinary, and we fail to see what is already there.

What distinguishes happy people from the unhappy is their attitude, happy people have a different way of thinking about things and doing things. They interpret the world in a different way, and go about their lives in a different way.


Some tips for living a Happier Life

- Use positive language
How do you answer, when someone asks you ‘how are you?’, do you answer ‘not bad’, ‘ok’, ‘hanging in there’, ‘not dead yet’ ?
Why not say … ‘I’m in paradise…. Care to join me?’ , or ‘I’m fabulous’.

- Invest in experiences not stuff. It feels good when you buy stuff - for a week or so . Focus on experiences rather than on the material. Make a list of everything in your life that is more precious to you than money. Think also about everything you have already that money can’t buy - family, friends, health, laughter, your imagination, spirituality. Share life’s experiences with others.

- Focus on positive emotions - curiosity instead of fear, compassion instead of anger .

- Expect to find Joy in everything you do
Send love into the day ahead and expect joy and delightful experiences. Choose for yourself heaven in your heart, light in your soul and miracles in your life

- Take the scenic route
Take the scenic route to work and make your drive fresh, magical and fun

- Smile
Practice smiling, this is the start of pleasure. It is hard to feel unhappy when you are smiling !

- Start seeing the glass as half full
Reshape your attitude. Rather than thinking ‘I don’t have enough’ , reprogram your mind to think ‘I have more than enough’.
Happiness is a skill and the more you practice it, the better you get.
Be positive, statistics show that your life circumstances influence your happiness by only 10% in the long term.
The key to long term happiness is attitude not circumstance. Set a goal to enjoy today 10% more than yesterday.


- Treasure relationships
Investing time, energy and attention in your most important relationships will increase your happiness.

- Make time for fun
Most of us are so preoccupied with life’s chores that we sometimes forget to enjoy ourselves. Make a commitment to having fun. Make time for your family, friends, hobbies and passions.

- Count your blessings
Keep a gratitude journal. Write down at least 5 things a day that you are grateful for, made you smile or inspired you.

- Look after yourself
To be happy you must never compromise your health. Exercise, eat healthy clean foods, get enough sleep will improve your mood and energy levels.

- Clarity
Have a clear life direction - a life purpose. People who have goals in life are happier.

- Think better thoughts.
You can’t control circumstances outside of yourself. Life is full of experiences. But you can, with practice, decide what goes on inside. In each moment, you can choose what you want to think about, what you wish to imagine and what you wish to feel. If you are not thinking good thoughts, choose again. You have the freedom to choose a better thought.

- Practice
Learning to become happy and joyful takes time and practice. Happiness is a decision made repeatedly, and one that must be supported with thoughts and actions.
You alone are responsible for creating your experience.


- Share positive feelings
Let your children know how great it feels to spend time with them, tell your partner how much you love and appreciate them, tell your best friend how much you enjoyed having coffee with them last week, call your parents - tell them you love them. Sharing happy memories or experiences with others - or even anticipating doing so is a powerful way of experiencing more happiness and joy.

- Acts of kindness
Committing random acts of kindness, is one of the most established and popular happiness boosters. Carrying out good deeds both enhances your view of the world and makes you feel capable and strong. For the next 7 days, carry out 3 random acts of kindness every day.
Choose activities that require some kind of thought and intentional effort from you. Vary what you do, and the people you choose to help.

- Don’t overcomplicate things
Adults have an amazing ability to overcomplicate things and imagine that life is far more difficult than it needs to be. Act like a child, approach situations as an opportunity to have fun. Expect each and every day to be a fun, happy one. Being happy is a state of mind

- Practice forgiveness

- Say yes to an offer you would normally decline
All of us get invitations that we decline because we aren’t interested in it, or don’t have time. This week say yes. Go out on a limb.

- Enjoy
Enjoy the moment - too many people spend too much time dwelling on the past and worrying about the future. Focus on and live in the present moment and appreciate what you have

The No 1 tip I can give you to make this day the best day ever ….
Stop waiting for happiness. Happiness is right here, right now !

The search for happiness can be never ending.

To be peaceful, choose peace. To be free, choose freedom. To be loved, give love. To be happy, choose happiness

So just for today, stop searching and just be.
Appreciate and enjoy where you are right now.

Wishing you Love, Laughter and ... great sex

To discover the Secrets to a Fabulous, Happy, Confident Life ... and 'Get your Sexy Back' please visit my website www.secretsfromtheboudoir.com.au

Kisses
kim xxx

BE FABULOUS

Hello all of you Fabulous Women !

I just created a 'Be Fabulous' Slide Show ... sit back ,relax and realize how incredibly Fabulous YOU Are ... right NOW !



Be Fabulous ... and show the World your Magnificence !!1
Kisses
Kim

To discover the Secrets to a Fabulous, Happy, Confident Life ... and 'Get your Sexy Back' please visit my website www.secretsfromtheboudoir.com.au

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Sexless Marriage

It is a sensitive topic among Australian middle class couples. Whenever 30 or 40 something’s gather together , inevitably the conversation leads to the lack of sex in their lives.

Even the best relationships can go through a rough time, mainly because we tend to take our partners for granted . We put a huge amount of effort into all other areas of our lives, such as our job, finances and family life, but get lazy when it comes to long term love.

I run Women’s Sexuality and Self Confidence Workshops, and I have found that many women I talk to would rather skip sex for a whole month than discard a prized pair of shoes.

1. Visit your GP
There can be many reasons for a decline in libido, firstly I would advise your wife to visit her GP for a general health check and also blood test to check her hormone levels.

2. Body Confidence
For a woman to be truly at ease with her sexuality, she needs to be able to love herself and her body. Sex, a sexier life and self esteem go hand in hand, because if you don’t feel good about yourself and your body, the chances of feeling uninhibited in bed are limited.

It is so easy for women to throw their sexuality on the backburner when they have children to feed and deadlines to meet. Women need to start thinking of themselves as a sexual being, rather than someone’s wife and mother. They need to do things to make them feel good about themselves. Feeling good about yourself is crucial for good sex.

3. Discover what you enjoy sexually
To enjoy sex, you must also know how to share pleasure and discover what you like when it comes to sex. Many women have never learnt to ask for what they want sexually. Sex nourishes and energises a marriage and helps strengthen it’s bond.

4. Foreplay and Seduction
While the absence of sex does not necessarily mean you have fallen out of love, it does indicate that intimacy is missing. Although many women love their partner, they no longer feel the same level of desire. What is missing in many relationships is emotional foreplay and seduction.

Foreplay out of the bedroom is more important than what happens in the minutes leading up to sex . The most effective foreplay takes place hours, days and weeks before you make love.

Seduction remains crucial to maintaining a healthy level of desire. In the early stages of a relationship we make the effort to seduce.

5. The Power of Positive Thinking
If you think about how boring and disappointing your sex life is - that’s what it will be. But start thinking about how great it could be and you’re half way there. Envisage how you’d like things to be, remember the physical intimacy you shared when you first met, imagine achieving that again. It’s been proven that we can think ourselves into a positive state, just by reprogramming out brains. Which is a ‘fake it till you make it’ mentality. And remember the less sex you have, the less you want ….. and the more you have, the more you want.

6. Don’t blame
If you don’t make the time , sex quite often won’t happen of it’s own accord , so take responsibility and try to turn things around. You are at least 50% responsible for the state of any relationship you are in, if you don’t like what you see, it’s time to institute changes, without blame.

7. Actions
Actions speak louder than words, so don’t forget how far a cuddle can take you. Run your wife a nice bubble bath, pour her a glass of wine and close the door, then take the kids out for a walk, give her some ‘ME’ time. Give her a slow sensual massage, but without any expectations. How often do you kiss each other ? Take time every day to kiss your partner … not just a peck on the cheek … but a long, slow, loving kiss

8. Understand emotional differences
A major reason for couples having less and less sex is men and women don’t understand each others needs. Women don’t understand how rejected a man feels when she is not in the mood for sex and the man does not realize how much the woman needs romance and good communication. Unhappiness and resentment are two of the most common causes of lack of libido in women.

Kisses
Kim xxx

To discover the Secrets to a Fabulous, Happy, Confident Life ... and 'Get your Sexy Back' please visit my website www.secretsfromtheboudoir.com.au

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Networking

Hi Ladies and Gents

I have just returned from a Networking event run by Kylie Welsh from Brisbane
Women ( www.brisbanewomen.com ).... what a wonderful night of information and networking. Michelle Green from Global Web Marketing Services (www.globalwebmarketingservices.com )gave a informative talk on how to improve our Internet marketing skills, this is something I really need to learn more about. She stressed the importance of adding to your blog every week - so you may be reading more blog posts from me !

I met some interesting and outstanding ladies, all out there making their marks on the world .... they have dreams, goals and visions and it was inspiring to listen to their stories.

A big hello to Diane Carter , who I met tonight. Diane has just published a book titled 'dare to live -trust yourself'. Diane shares her story and the stories of others who have faced and overcome adversity. I bought Diane's book and am now looking forward to reading it.

Diane told me a little of her story - she was attacked by a Hyena when at a camp on the Zambezi River - she was dragged across the ground by the Hyena, Diane managed to fight it off, but lost an eye and had facial and hand injuries as a result of the attack. Diane struck me as a Vibrant, amazing,joyful and fully alive woman - an inspiration to us all.

Proceeds from Diane's book will be going to Cancer Research, I will be posting her contact details on my links page. http://www.secretsfromtheboudoir.com.au/helpful_links_58.html

Well Darling ones ... I am off to bed

Kisses
Kim xxx

VALENTINES DAY

So here we are on Valentines day …and for those of you who don’t have someone to give you flowers or buy you chocolates … this blog post is just for you !

Now you could mope around and feel sorry for yourself and unlovable all day - but that is not what a sexy empowered goddess would do .

Whether you are with you Valentine or on your own today, I want you to use Valentines day as an excuse to LOVE YOURSELF. I want you to spend today doing what you love to do. Pamper yourself, paint your toenails, go for a walk, dance to your favourite music, eat your favourite foods. Spend today loving and pampering yourself.

And when you are ready to meet the right man, it’s critical to know what you want in a man. Do you know ?

I want you to get a sheet of paper and write a list of what you are looking for in your ideal man, what qualities do you want him to have. ….. Honest, reliable, independent, respect, faithful, successful, fun, available, adventurous, sporty, intellectual, loves the theatre …. List every quality.

Once you work out what qualities you are looking for , write it down as a statement such as this -

“I am happily married/dating a fun, reliable, successful, respectful man, who shares my ideals and dreams”

This statement is an affirmation and affirmations do work.

So decide what you want in a man. Write it down. Put together an affirmation. Write it. Speak it out loud while you are having a shower, driving to work, any time , as many times a day as possible.

Then get ready. Your affirmation will go to work on changing your beliefs and the negative programming in your mind. Keep saying it - you will soon notice you’re attracting better men and dating better men.

There it is my darlings …. is it magic ? No it’s the power of the universe

This will also for my sexy sisters looking for another female partner and for men wishing to attract the lady of their dreams !

So get working darling ones - spend some time today loving yourself, adoring the beautiful goddess you are, and start working on your list to attract the partner of your dreams .

To discover the Secrets to a Fabulous, Happy, Confident Life ... and 'Get your Sexy Back' please visit my website www.secretsfromtheboudoir.com.au

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Kisses
and Happy Loving
Kim xxx

Hellooooo

Ladies, through this blog as well as sharing my journey with you, I want to also show you how you can adore love and adore the amazing woman you are, I want to show you how you can live a life of joyful abundance , adore , how to live a life of pleasure and fun and how to live a sexy fulfilled life.

You might be thinking, who am I to tell you how to live your life ?

Well being in my 40’s , I have life experience behind me … and what amazing life experiences I have.

I have raised 4 beautiful children , had an amazing marriage to a incredible man … that sadly ended two years ago. I also used to own a Sex Shop, but now run my business online, I hold Sex Goddess Workshops where I teach women how to ‘Get their Sexy Back’ and how to put the ‘Sizzle back in their Sex Lives’ and in case that is not enough, in my spare time I sometimes go to Fetish Clubs - yes I am one of those women who look quite demure at the office … but spend Saturday evenings dressed up in PVC, wearing thigh high leather boots and punishing slaves LOL !

So would you like to read about my adventures ?

I thought so !

Over the next few weeks I will share some of my stories with you.

I imagine you want to hear the kinky tales from the fetish clubs, the stories of whipping, spanking, tease, nipple play , foot worshipping, St Andrew’s Crosses, handcuffs, PVC, latex, leather, cages and chains ?

Or do you want to know about my shop ? The customers that came through my doors …. sexy showgirls, 60 year old women buying their first vibrator, drag queens, giggling 18 year olds coming into a sex shop for the first time, cross dressers, the occasional pervert, nervous men buying lingerie for their partners …. or was the lingerie really for them ?

Or perhaps you may want to find out more about the Sex Goddess Workshops I run, do you want to know how to improve your sex life, how to add some sizzle, some spice, how to take your sex life out of the deep freeze, do you want to learn how to become more confident in the bedroom, how to be a Sex Goddess and how to live a life of pleasure and passion ?

Yes , I know you are greedy, you want to hear about it all NOW !

Well guess what …. You will have to wait for my next post !

Oh I am a tease …. But that is what Good Sex is all about …. Tease and Seduction…. oh and of course Confidence

Until next time

To discover the Secrets to a Fabulous, Happy, Confident Life ... and 'Get your Sexy Back' please visit my website www.secretsfromtheboudoir.com.au

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Happy Loving
Kim xxx

VALENTINES DAY - CREATING BEDROOM BLISS

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Valentines Day Bedroom Bliss

Create ‘Bliss in the Bedroom’ on Valentines Day, with these simple ideas from Sensuality Coach and owner of Secrets From the Boudoir, Kim Gillespie


The Boudoir
The Boudoir is the most intimate of rooms for indulging in the Rituals of Seduction ,
it should be a sensual retreat that you and your partner will never want to leave.
Here you can take off your working clothes and
“slip into something more comfortable”
Having a Boudoir is all about Romance and Seduction.

Decorating your Boudoir
Think candlelight , satin, silk , fur, flowers,
sultry music, lots of cushions and romance
You want your bed to be somewhere you disappear with your lover
Colours that enhance a room include Reds, Pinks, Browns, Orange and Gold.
Lighting is essential. You do not want harsh overhead lighting. Lamps create a soft glow to the room
Candles are a must. Scatter candles and little tea lights in every corner of the room to cast a romantic glow . Arouse the senses with the heady aroma of Cedarwood, Sandalwood ,
Sage and Lavender. ( Do not put candles where they can be knocked)
To decorate the bed, invest in throws made from fake fur or velvet, an exotic satin bedspread is a beautiful addition as are a pile of soft beaded cushions.
For instant sex appeal why not invest in silk or satin sheets. Skin that is caressed by exquisite sheets feels aroused
Don’t forget sexy music - music has a subliminal effect and can relax and transform us
Music should be as sensual as the sex you’re hoping to have


Get a Babysitter
Now you have the room set up, ask Grandma or a trusted friend to look after the children for the night.

Leave a love note.
There is something stimulating, simply knowing that your partner was thoughtful enough to write down on paper that he or she is thinking about you. Leave a love note where your partner will easily find it, describing how sexy they are and what you have planned to do for him/her tonight.

Bathe your Partner
Run your partner a bubble bath , open a bottle of wine,
gently pamper and wash him or her.

Sensual Massage.
This is one great way to get in the mood or put your partner in the mood. Once the massage begins with the back, then the back of the legs, you can lead to other more sensitive parts of the body. You can use sensual oils and aromatherapy oils to aid in creating that special state of mind. Sometimes just the relaxing effect of a massage can calm you down enough to feel intimate.

Wear Sexy Lingerie
Sex appeal has a lot to do with confidence and there is nothing like sexy lingerie to enhance your curves and make you feel attractive.
The Art of Seduction is based on anticipation , so consider yourself as a delightful present ready to be unwrapped !
Keep a selection of ‘Boudoir wear’ aside for romantic occasions. This should consist of at least one outfit that enhances all of your ‘assets’ and makes you feel sexy. Look for Lace, Silk, Satin, Ribbon, Mesh , Bows and Fur. Try cleavage enhancing Corsets or silk gowns.
When underwear is silky and sexy , it can have a wonderful sensual effect, making you feel great and your partner long to get his hands on you.

Have an Indoor Picnic
Play soft, sensual music , have on hand Chilled Champagne , Grapes Strawberries and Chocolates to feed your Lover.

And now Darlings … the rest is up to you !

For more information on how to Create even more ‘Bliss in the Bedroom’ and learn how to ‘Get your Sexy Back and Feel Fabulous Naked’ , please visit www.secretsfromtheboudoir.com.au